Signs dating narcissist
Well, let me give you a few, 30 to be exact; dead give-aways you are dating a Narcissist.If he is what he says he is, it will show over time and he won’t mind waiting.If all his ex’s are psycho bitches think about this, ” He is attracted to psycho bitches or he turns women into psycho bitches, either way HE has a problem.” 11. DO NOT give up your independence, it starts slowly, he will sabotage your vehicle, get you fired, ask you to quit work or go into business with him.In his past relationships, at work, even with his family he is always doing all the work, the only one putting in an effort, he is holding the company together or the relationship. Changes jobs many times, gets bored easily, accused of stealing, someone at work is jealous of him and lying about him. Once you lose your job you are dependent on him and it is so much harder to get away. Very early in the relationship he talks in “we” terms, saying things like are “we” going to take the car or the truck (not your car or mine), or let’s go back to “our” place, subtle little things that make you a “couple”.True love does not fade the longer you date, it grows stronger.Do not move in because you don’t want to lose him, if he is as sweet as he pretends to be waiting will not be a problem. The biggest number one without fail sign of a narcissist is how they sweep you off your feet at the beginning of the relationship.They fall in love very quickly, they have never loved anyone like they love you, and you are perfect in their eyes. A narcissist is a con artist and when he finds his “target” he morphs into his “Good 3.
But we got there and I immediately felt an undercurrent, an elephant in the room that no one was really talking about but every one was walking around.
They tend to move around a lot, that way they don’t have to worry about their past biting them in the ass. They have nothing, except excuses why they have nothing (it is always someone else’s fault, i.e.: they left it all with the ex, the ex took it all, or some other hard luck story. Their ex’s are all paranoid, psycho bitches who falsely accused them of cheating, called him cheap, didn’t appreciate all he did for them and even were physically abusive to them. More than likely he appears almost naive and helpless, and makes you feel like you want to take care of him. I felt that he loved me more than I loved him, I almost felt at an unfair advantage. He insisted he wanted to “take care” of me; I made a conscious effort to let my guard down, not be so independent and let him do things for me.
If he has an ex who is calling and distraught over their breakup and he tells you she has fatal attraction, he is trying to get rid of her and you witness him not answering his phone, not returning texts, and he says he is afraid of what she will do, that she is spreading lies about him and stalking him and he is afraid she will tell you lies about him; do NOT assume she is a psycho and sorry she lost him. It is a HUGE boost to his ego to take an independent self-sufficient woman and make her dependent on him.
He talks about the future with you in it, in subtle ways, he might even propose early, but whether or not he proposes he makes it clear that he wants you in his life in the future and is not afraid of commitment. Very early he will do things for you that secure his position in your life, fixing your car, buying memory for your computer, giving you something expensive of his to keep for him, somehow making you indebted to him or get you pregnant, ensuring that you can’t just walk away. They will often let a little tid bit of truth slip out but you may miss it if you are not aware. He was a very attentive lover but told me in past relationships he hadn’t worried about the woman and just basically climbed on top and worried about his own satisfaction.
(that is the way it became after time with us also, and he only was attentive to my needs if he was trying to win me back)His ex’s thought he was unfaithful but he was always faithful, his ex’s said he was moody but he seems so easy-going, His ex’s called him cheap but he seems so generous. Early in the relationship he will ask you to do a “favor” for him or run an errand, maybe even pick up his paycheck for him, something that puts you in the position of his partner or significant other and it makes you feel special that he would ask you. Insists on sleeping snuggled up all night and points it out to you, how he has never been able to sleep wrapped up with someone like that before.