Besides, as with many things in life, sometimes the build-up is as much fun as the event, so take your time. We ended up mostly naked, went down on each other played for hours just teasing ourselves and other people and ended up just being mostly voyeurs.Then as it was approaching the end of the night, finally we decided to have sex there and then. I barely managed to stay hard, I was too focused on thinking about was all the people looking but the night was still great.If you cant find a middle ground then I believe the best case is to go your separate ways and find someone who does instead of spending 15 years miserable. My high school sweetheart ex who I dated for 7 years on and off found my internet history and flipped out because I was just looking at swinging stuff. We broke up, I went on and she single male stuff, had girlfriends, etc.
Roughly a year and a half ago after spending some months researching and processing my feelings about swinging I approached my partner of 3 years and explained that ' While I loved her with all my heart, I could no longer be in a monogamous relationship.'.
As a typical guy its extremely easy to get carried away and want to push every experience as far as it will go but the risks of 'going too far, too early' are huge.
You risk your partner freaking out (especially if they are prone to 'shame') and most importantly damaging your relationship if your jealousy gets the better of you.
TIP #5: GUYS YOU' RE GONNA HAVE SO MANY AWKWARD EXPERIENCES, YOU BETTER BE WILLING TO PUT THAT SHIT TO THE BACK OF YOUR HEAD AND MOVE ON.
Or you're gonna end up like the numerous men you see posting on forums talking about how they feel emasculated because god forbid their penis couldn't stand to attention immediately on command. Third event, we're standing there on the dance floor and a gorgeous couple just walks up to us, girl grabs me, guy grabs my girl.