If you see someone you want to meet or if you’re talking to someone you’re interested in, look them in the eyes.Like, for longer than feels comfortable, even if it’s just a second. There are apps, of course, but I think we all agree those are mostly a waste of time.And then there’s trying to meet people in real life. ” Truthfully, all of the advice the experts give about how to meet a potential significant other is pretty useless. But if you’re reading this, it’s ‘cause you’re sick of not having anyone to fight with over the remote control and also don’t really want to die alone. While I’m definitely an expert, I have been doing this whole dating thing for a while, which, personally, I think makes me more qualified to dole out advice than some “matchmaker” or “dating expert.” And anyway, what do you have to lose?
Try going out alone once a week—whether it’s to a restaurant, a bar, to see a band, an open mic night… Just be sure to come off as approachable, which means appearing unoccupied (see above), sitting at the bar instead of at a table, etc.
Sure, you might not meet someone you want to fall in love with, but at least you’re out trying. I can only speak for myself, but I seem to always meet people in two situations: when I’m doing something I love or when I’m dating without expectations.
I think both of those situations encourage a natural confidence that people find attractive.
I know, that makes me want to crawl into bed and hide under the blankets too, but it’s the hard truth, and going forward, wouldn’t it be nice to hide under the blankets with someone? It’s very easy and comfortable to become a creature of habit, but if you want to see (and be seen by) new people, you’ve got to mix it up.
It may feel uncomfortable (What will your fellow Soul Cycle cult members think if you don’t show up to your Thursday night class?!