Elisabeth elliot dating
What God gives us is not necessarily "ours" but only ours to offer back to him, ours to relinguish, ours to lose, ours to let go of, if we want to be our true selves.Many deaths must go into reaching our maturity in Christ, many letting goes.” ― “But the question to precede all others, which finally determines the course of our lives is What do I really want?If, when the time has come for a commitment, he is not man enough to ask her to marry him, she should give him no reason to presume that she belongs to him.” ― “Until the will and the affections are brought under the authority of Christ, we have not begun to understand, let alone accept, His Lordship.The Cross, as it enters the love life, will reveal the heart’s truth.” ― “If God gave it to me," we say "it's mine. The truth is that it is ours to thank Him for and ours to offer back to Him, ours to relinquish, ours to lose, ours to let go of - if we want to find our true selves, if we want real Life, if our hearts are set on glory.” ― “We are always held in the love of God.
Its easy to talk oneself into a decision that has no permanence – easier sometimes than to wait patiently.” ― “If we hold tightly to anything given to us unwilling to allow it to be used as the Giver means it to be used we stunt the growth of the soul.
Just a few days ago, I read of James Calvert, famous missionary to Fiji: Early in 1838, it was resolved to send men to reinforce the mission to the Fiji Islands, and the missionary committee, unexpectedly finding themselves able to send three [missionaries] instead of two, called upon Mr. Forthwith he consented, and went down to Buckinghamshire and asked Miss Fowler to share his lot. The Bible warns against both hastiness and delay in the specific context of marriage (Song of Songs, 1 Corinthians 7).
The proposal was sudden, but probably not altogether unexpected. Jim Elliot was disdainful of marriage ceremonies in general.
Jim also mentions the extreme difficulty of starting married life as a new missionary.
This is one piece of counsel with which I can agree: major life shifts should, whenever possible, be tackled one at a time!