Dating practices in other countries
The actual experience of dating in China can also be somewhat different.For example, you’ll often see Chinese couples wearing matching outfits, which is almost unheard of in the West.That’s why if you’re dating someone who is Chinese, it’s very important you make a good first impression with the parents!In general, sex before marriage in China is less common and considered more serious than it is in many Western cultures.It’s not always about finding love so much as it is about finding a potential marriage partner who fits with one’s own ideals.For example, although many men get married without a house and a car, Chinese women will often say that they’re looking for these things because that’s the sort of person who probably has a stable career and will be able to provide for her and their future children in the long-term. As one contestant on China’s most popular dating show put it, "I’d rather cry in a BMW than laugh on a bicycle." Every parent is different, of course, but in general Chinese parents expect to be more involved in their children’s relationships.The ultimate goal of most relationships in China is marriage.Young Chinese adults are often under a lot of pressure from the elders in their family to find a good husband or wife and get married relatively early.
One of my buddies thought he went on a date with a Russian girl, but in her mind, it wasn’t a date.
Because of China’s rigorous college entrance examination, dating is rarely tolerated among high school students. That doesn’t mean that Chinese teens don’t have high school crushes or even relationships (mostly secret ones).
But in general, Chinese students leave high school with a lot less romantic experience than their American counterparts.
This pressure is particularly acute for women, who can be called “left-over women” if they pass the age of 26 or 27 without finding a husband.
Men can find themselves similarly left-over if they wait too long to get married.