Dating a lightworker
Please avoid diagnosing your partner in conversation.
Rather, read on to gain some insight into the health of your relationship. Maybe they texted you constantly, or told you they loved you within the first month — something experts refer to as “love bombing.” Maybe they tell you how smart you are or emphasize how compatible you are, even if you’ve just started seeing each other.
Do they ask follow-up questions and express interest to learn more about you? “They need a lot of praise, and if you’re not giving it to them, they’ll fish for it,” she says.
That’s why they’re constantly looking at you to tell them how great they are.
“Narcissism falls on a spectrum,” explains Beverly Hills family and relationship psychotherapist That said, knowing the “official” diagnostic criteria doesn’t usually make it easier to spot a narcissist, especially when you’re romantically involved with one.
It’s usually not possible to determine if someone has NPD without the diagnosis of a qualified expert.
Dig deeper into their connections and you may notice that they only have casual acquaintances, buddies they trash-talk, and nemeses.
Angela Grace, Ph D, MEd, BFA, BEd, adds that narcissists will often exaggerate their accomplishments and embellish their talents in these stories in order to gain adoration from others.
What it boils down to, says licensed therapist Rebecca Weiler, LMHC, is selfishness at the (usually extreme) expense of others, plus the inability to consider others’ feelings at all.
NPD, like most mental health or personality disorders, isn’t black and white.
Walfish says that this inability to empathize, or even sympathize, is often the reason why many, if not all, narcissists’ relationships eventually collapse, whether they’re romantic or not.
Most narcissists won’t have any long-term, real friends.